A man calls in and says his wife does not respect him, etc. Robertson’s very first take on it:
“Well you could become a Muslim and you could beat her.”
To even joke about such a thing — if he was joking in the first place — is not funny. Nor should it even be insinuated from the lips of a man who calls himself a follower of Jesus Christ.
Without knowing any details, Robertson goes on:
“This man’s gotta stand up to her, he can’t let her get away with this stuff.”
“I don’t think we condone wife beating these days, but something’s got to be done to her…”
There are always two sides to every story. My first question would be what is it you do that ticks your wife off so bad? Not that she automatically would have a right to behave a certain way. But there is more going on there than the husband was willing to share. PR did not even address this possibility.
Notice how PR said, something’s got to be done to her. This implies punishment. Not with her, which would be a form of an act of working together, of unity. But to her. Her also implying the woman is completely at fault when her side of the story has not been heard.
Female host ask why the woman would not want to talk about the problems. This in my opinion is a start to real communication. Why would the woman not want to talk to her husband, why does she threaten him? Does she have a possible medical problem, is she a total wack job or is she a woman trying to defend herself from an abusive tyrannical husband? Robertson does not even care to address these possible issues. Instead he assumes:
“She is just totally, uh, she’s rebellious. Chances are she was rebellious with her father. She was a rebellious child.”
Pat knows absolutely nothing about the woman in question. Yet, he assumes. For all we know, the woman may have grown up in an abusive home with an abusive father.
She doesn’t want to submit to any authority.
Once again, he assumes. What is the woman’s husband like? Is he a man of God led by the Spirit of God, a man who loves his wife like Christ loves the Church? Or is he a control freak? Is he abusive?
And she probably had temper tantrums when she was a kid and… you know the little girl, ‘I hate you, I hate you’ and she wants to slap her father.
Again he assumes. He assumes she had temper tantrums. Some children are not allowed to even show certain emotions. Anger may be one. Any tantrums they may have, may show much later in life. In spite of what people would like to thing is the every day norm, some fathers are not always nice to their little girls, and yes there may be times when a child may want to slap a parent, IF there is abuse going on.
Well, that’s the same kind of thing. She’s transfered the father now…that’s the problem, she does not understand authority. When she was growing up, nobody made her behave and now you’ve got a 13 year old in a 30 year old body and she is acting like a child.
He assumes too much and he knows nothing. It could have been she grew up in a home where discipline went beyond the norm, where authority was not something she could trust.
What do you do with that? You can’t divorce her according to the scripture… so I say move to saudi arabia.”
My dogs — if possible — are more qualified to offer marriage counseling than Pat Robertson!
RWWBlog:Pat Robertson Tells Man to Beat his Wife, Move to Saudi Arabia