This is for anyone who wants help with any kind of mental malady. I don’t claim this to be some kind of cure-all, merely it is things that may or may not help, depending upon the individual and their situation. It is not written through the eyes of some type of harsh judgment. It is written mainly from my personal experience. So feel free to either receive or not the words I speak. If something does not feel right to you, then by all means disregard it.
To the one who is afflicted: If right now, at this moment, you are able to read this and focus, then I am going to assume you are having a good day. It is with that intent, I speak to you.
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love. — 1 John 4:18 —
There can be a lot of fear with the Schizophrenic. It takes a certain kind of faith to trust God when paranoia and other voices take over. You may not be able to see it, but a lot of times, the person suffering through this, is doing their very best to trust God. Just because you can’t see it, does not mean they aren’t.
I do not believe faith is always the absence of fear. If as a parent, you see your child run out into the street, your first reaction is one of anxiety or fear. That fear causes you to jump up and run to pull them from harm’s way. You are not going to sit there and flippantly say, the Lord be praised, I trust Him. If you do, then you are an idiot and need to have your children taken away from you. Faith is being able to put one step in front of the other, in spite of fear.
1. Be honest with yourself. Don’t try and pretend to be something you aren’t. Not even for the sake of others. It will just bring more confusion. Example: When my mother was sick, I was on the verge of being a basket case. Someone told me I had to be strong. What does that mean? Not showing emotion? Somehow developing some kind of superhuman strength, when in reality I had none? There is nothing wrong with being weak in an area. You do not have to prove anything to anybody.
2. Do not allow your affliction to become an excuse for something, when down deep you may know differently. Example, I once was talking to someone diagnosed with Borderline Personality. She was more or less told through counseling because of her affliction, she could expect to make up long tall tales that were not true. And she did. Tales that were outrageous which caused her to act upon them. It was a light matter to her until she opened up one day and told me. I simply called it lying and we went on from there. She is now free from that “diagnosis.”
3. Try to remember through your bad days, through the mood swings, through the voices, that this too shall pass — even though it does not feel like it at the moment.
4. Do not worry about what others think of you. Your real friends will be patient and not judge you in your weakness and times of confusion. Those are the ones you want to hang on to and trust. All others aren’t worth having in your life. You will find they will just find ways to bring you down.
5. Find a hobby, something you can enjoy doing.
6. Do not expect others to full fill your time or emotional needs. See number 5.
7. If you are on meds, do not let anyone tell you, you should come off of them. That includes faith healers, preachers, etc. That is between you and God. If there comes a time when you think you may want to give it a go and or sense God wants you off the meds, He will not only show you, but He will pave the way.
8. Do not allow yourself to come under any kind of condemnation by comparing yourself with others. So what if others are able to do something you can’t do at the moment? Big deal. I would almost bet, there is something you can do that they can’t.
9. Do not entrust yourself in the hands of others who only want to see you as a feather in their cap, just so they can fix you. These people are more concerned about how they look and at being self-important. Usually it creates a dependence upon them that is not healthy.
10. Do try to reach out to others. Remember, the universe does not evolve around you. In spite of your condition, you are here for a reason. There are lives only you can touch, no matter if you are considered quirky or not.
11. Remember there will be those that no matter what you do or even if you get better, who will refuse to see you in any other light than being mentally ill. Let that be ok to you. You don’t have to prove anything to people like that.
12. Remember also, assuming you are nice to those around you, there will be those who in spite of your quirkiness will be quite fond of you. Once again, let these people in your life.
13. If you are a Christian, read the Word. If not, then it wouldn’t hurt you anyway. But it is your choice.
14. Seek out those whom you trust to pray with. Be just as willing to pray for their needs as they are for yours. Remember, it is not all about you. The world does not evolve around any one person. Don’t make it so, for anyone who is trying to befriend you or help you.
15. Do not be so needy that others find themselves not wanting anything to do with you. Put your dependence upon God. If you aren’t a Christian, the same goes for you: Do not be so needy that others find themselves not wanting anything to do with you. Some harsh words for both Believer and unbeliever, still, it is true. There is nothing worse than a person who sucks the very life out of you. Christian or not, people can only give so much. Your mental well being is really your responsibility. No one else’s.
I apologize it has taken so long to get this article up. I have been doing number 5 for quite a while. Pursuing another hobby of making log cabins out of popsicle sticks. Thank you for your patience and God bless you.
If anyone else has any suggestions, feel free to make a comment, so others can benefit from your help. Thank you.